Moving away from the joint family ….the after effects….

We in India take pride in our old age traditions and culture of family bonding; joint family. Indian culture thrived on family bonding. Once a relationship was formed, it was for life. The strong family bonds continue even now, though the cities have seen a shift from joint to nuclear families. The change…. Children are generally moving out of parental home for reasons of profession … Continue reading Moving away from the joint family ….the after effects….

People matter most…. They make or break the organisation….

Who-so-ever one may be. What-so-ever profession one may be in. It is the people around you who matter most in life. It is they who make or break you. Starting from close relatives to professional associates/ subordinates or the customers, they are the ones who matter. Unfortunately, most of us neglect or take for granted the people who matter most. Taking people for granted…. The … Continue reading People matter most…. They make or break the organisation….

Marital discord …. The why and what of it….

Marital discord historically may be as old as the institution of marriage itself. Some lead to the courts while most in countries like India sustain through compromises. The trivial reasons… It is logical that no two people will have the same thought process. Differences are bound to be there in opinions. But, should that difference lead to separation? I have been dealing with this subject, … Continue reading Marital discord …. The why and what of it….

The relationship dividers….

In an earlier blog I had discussed the ways to maintain happiness in the married life, here in this blog I will be discussing the different habits/ behaviours which generally drive a wedge in a relationship. When two people are in love, they tend to overlook lot many differences which later in life may become the reason for straining or breaking a relationship. Right mix of love and friendship is the fuel which drives any relationship. Like love, no relationship comes with a lifetime guarantee though options of limited warranties to repair a crack are always there. Constant efforts are required to be taken to sustain a relationship. In my view the main irritants which may finally drive love away and bring in a divide in any relationship are as given in succeeding paras.

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Moving away from the joint family ….the after effects….

We in India take pride in our old age traditions and culture of family bonding; joint family. Indian culture thrived on family bonding. Once a relationship was formed, it was for life. The strong family bonds continue even now, though the cities have seen a shift from joint to nuclear families. The change…. Children are generally moving out of parental home for reasons of profession … Continue reading Moving away from the joint family ….the after effects….

Sustaining ‘Happiness Index’ in married life….

It is after a couple of months of married life that I started to understand that “Love is a beautiful feeling, but marriage is a different ball game all together”. By the time you realise it ‘it’s too late to withdraw’.

I had married after a brief courtship happy that I understood my would be wife so well but ‘Ek mahine mein hi aankh khul gayi’, within a month of marriage I was asking myself ‘Yaar ye woh hi hai?’ (Is she the same girl I married?). As the initial euphoria of marriage diminishes and the routine catches up it requires a sustained effort to maintain the ‘Happiness Index’.

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Separated by Corona…. United by Love (Helped by Internet)

Corona has forced the biggest lockdown ever on the normal activities the world over. The lockdown has brought families together and helping people to re-discover the ‘spark’ in the relationships which had gone missing kind courtesy the ever so busy life most of us had so got used to leading.

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Marriage and the shoe string budget…..

We had a short sweet courtship of three months before we decided to tie the knot. (My Dream Girl – Part 2: Ek ladki bheegi bhaagi si mili ek ajnabee se……)Three months was a good enough period to know and understand each other. The 90 best days of my life, enjoying the newfound company, flying high on cloud 9, love does take you on a different high. We had our fair share of hurdles, though nothing alarming, till we finally reached the stage of ‘saat pheras’ but fortunately both the families never raised any major issues.

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My Dream Girl – Part 2: Ek ladki bheegi bhaagi si mili ek ajnabee se……

I am very fond of travelling and my bachelor status and the profession that I am in both aided me in following my passion for travel. Having always believed that “Ek rasta hai zindagee jo tham gaye to kuch nahin” (Life is a journey on which one must keep moving) I travelled from place to place covering length and breadth of our great nation. While the love of travelling was getting fulfilled the ‘Love of my Life still eluded”, she was nowhere in the sight. My elders and colleagues were pushing me hard to ‘tweak’ my imagination a bit but I was not ready to throw in the towel as yet and the wait for “Shayar ki ghazal, kisi jheel ka kanwal” (the girl as beautiful as the flowing poetry or a lotus in the lake) my dream girl continued.

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