Today after interacting with a group of parents of children with special needs the first thought which struck my mind was that blessed are people like me who are born normal, who are parents of normal children, who are leading a normal life.
I have been a regular visitor to orphanages, old age homes and schools for children with special needs but such visits do not actually expose one to what a parent of these children may be going through every day. Being a parent carrying a life-long guilt consciousness of not being able to do the best for the child, getting physically and emotionally drained day after day, dealing with the tantrums/ fits of anger the child resorts to, giving up on social commitments as one parent/ family member is always required to be with the child, constantly plagued with the worry of future (what after us?) life is not easy and practically impossible for parents of normal children to visualise.
It is not just the child, but the parents also require constant support and education. They must be groomed to accept the truth, trained to face the challenges, to maintain the calm in the adversity. It is easy to lose temper when the child is throwing tantrums but then that is the worst response expected from the parent, it will do more harm than give any relief. Every action taken in front of the child has to be measured. The parents must undergo classes for stress management and learn best ways to teach and take care of the child. It is the combined effort of the parents, teacher and the medical practitioner which will give the best results.
COVID has added on to the problems of the parents with the children missing on the much required therapy sessions. Most of these children are maybe missing out on the only opportunity they used to get of going out of home and meeting / seeing other children when they went to school, this must be certainly making them more restless. Schools are attempting online classes, but the onus lies more on the parents to learn the right procedures and techniques to be able to help the child in practicing.
Parents must make effort to become members of various support groups especially of the parents of children with special needs on various social media platforms and share thoughts and seek support/ guidance. The main support the mother and father draw, is from each other, they should always be there for each other, when one feels low the other should lift the spirit. Lastly, the humour should not be allowed to escape from life, light moments of laughter are the best for relieving stress.
We had a short sweet courtship of three months before we decided to tie the knot. (My Dream Girl – Part 2: Ek ladki bheegi bhaagi si mili ek ajnabee se……)Three months was a good enough period to know and understand each other. The 90 best days of my life, enjoying the newfound company, flying high on cloud 9, love does take you on a different high. We had our fair share of hurdles, though nothing alarming, till we finally reached the stage of ‘saat pheras’ but fortunately both the families never raised any major issues.
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Long back, we as a family took a decision of celebrating all our important days like birthdays, anniversaries or days we achieved something in life in the company of children/ adults who in some form or the other are deprived of a normal life. We visit orphanages, schools for special children or just around the streets meeting poor people, specially kids. It doesn’t cost us much but gives lots and lots of happiness and joy. We don’t have much money to share but we do have is time, experience and knowledge in abundance, to share.
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Deepawali, is one festival which is celebrated across India by one and all irrespective of the religion they follow. As per mythology Lord Rama reached back Ayodhya (His Kingdom) on this day after completion of his 14 years exile and vanquishing Ravana in a bitter battle at Lanka. This day happened to be a New moon day (No moon) and each end every house was well lit up with the help of earthen lamps to welcome the prince (Rama). Even now all houses are lighted up using earthen lamps as also modern lights to commemorate the home coming and people burst crackers too to express happiness.
Continue reading “Deepawali..…the battle within….”
India is certainly a land of festivals and celebrations. The entire calendar is dotted with festivals celebrated across the land and breadth of the nation. We have just been through with the Navratris (nine nights) and today is VijayDashmi or Dussheraa (10th day), the day Ravana was killed by Lord Rama, a symbol of victory of Good over evil. All festivals are not just meant to be occasions for celebrations but the main aim of the mythological tales is to convey life lessons and strengthen human beliefs in the prevalent value system.
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Success is what we all seek in whatever we do in our life. All of us seemingly put in our best but still very few actually achieve what they set out to. It’s the habits, hobbies/ interests one pursues which actually make the difference in life. A close look at the lives of the successful people will reveal that they all had these five/ six qualities which made them stand out in life.
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Many of us are very impatient on road, overtaking at will in a hurry to reach the destination. Moment we see a vehicle overtaking ours, the blood boils and the foot automatically presses the accelerator to give a befitting response (or should I say reaction!!).
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Looks matter but not as much as the base, the roots, the foundation. The trees draw their strength from the roots as the buildings from the foundation they stand on.
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People have no patience, always impatient to get results, do not want to through the paces of decision making and making a choice. Everyone wants to taste success but most do not want to go through the paces required to reach the destination. They look for shortcuts or manipulations in the desire to get the results at the earliest. There are students who want to get maximum marks without studying and understanding the concepts from the prescribed books (they prefer to cram up the answers from the guide books available off the shelf) while there are others who want to achieve success by just being in the good books of teachers.
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India is a country of many festivals. We love to celebrate and the entire calendar is dotted with various festivals nearly equally spaced out through the year. Holi and Deepawali are two of the major festivals celebrated across the country with great fervour. What makes these two festivals different from others are the colors (Holi) and the lights (Deepawali). Actually, it is the color which adds to the beauty of these two special days; the colours used in Holi and the colorful lights of Deepawali.
Continue reading “Get the colors back….Celebrate life……”