My God converses with me….

 The best side effect of Corona, in my view, was that our God came home; the humans got locked inside the homes and the God got unlocked from the places of worships, the temples.

One thing which always irritated me no end was the religious beliefs and the traditions passed down through generations in every family and being followed blindly. I never understood why I should require a mediator (a religious priest) to converse with my God that too in a language alien to me. Why should a priest be required as a translator to convey my prayers/ wishes to God in a language which I do not understand? Why can’t I converse with my God in the language I speak? Why cannot I speak with HIM whenever, wherever I want to, why is a day fixed and an appointment needed? If I am HIS child, then where is the space for someone else between me and HIM? My God should understand the language I speak otherwise HE is not mine.

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Playing the victim card…. Need to change

We all play the victim card sometime or the other and don’t we excel in this game? Take any relation, parent and child, student and teacher, boss and junior there are normally three characters around whom the story revolves, an oppressor, a victim, and an observer (Victim’s friend generally) and if one is fortunate a saviour comes in some cases. Movies after movies based on this standard theme have raked in huge profits for the producers year after year. Aren’t we still so fond of such stories?

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Being a Soldier….

The night was freezing cold, the temperature sub-zero as the 20 men set out one fine evening on a confirmatory patrol in a rugged high-altitude terrain far away from their base, to check whether all was well along the border.

The group of 20, whose roots lay in 10 different states of the country from Punjab, Himachal, Bihar, Bengal, Orissa, Tamil Nadu, Andhra, Chattisgarh, Jharkhand to Madhya Pradesh, but in their veins flowed only Indian blood. The braves for whom surnames, caste, creed or religion had no relevance; the only religion they believed in is soldiering.

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Born pure….Why can’t we allow them to live pure?

I have had the good fortune of being in the hills on number of occasions; have not just traveled through but lived there for long periods.

One major difference between life in hills and the plains is the purity one experiences, the purity not just of the air or water but the complete environment as such, the major difference can be felt in the minds and thoughts; simple people, satisfied with basic necessities.  

Look at the rivers, most having their origin in the mountains; so pure, carefree it flows through the hills, and as it comes down being tamed by the dams to harness the energy and further down tons of pollutants get added through factory/ human waste, burning corpses and what not. The stream which originated so pure is turned into a garbage cum pollutant carrier due to human greed and neglect.

Come to think of it, human being undergoes similar changes from birth till death. A child at birth has such a pure mind, carefree in the initial years of growth and then the dams of education system, the beliefs of the elder and the outdated societal values come in between trying to pull the free flowing energy of the youth in their own directions. Parents and elders dictating education, career and marriage options and all possible attempts are made to pollute the mind through distorted historical facts, feeding ill-conceived beliefs, communal-ism, racism and what not. Majority of the youth lose the steam in the dams of life prepared for them by the elders and the society and just give in to living a routine life caught between job, family, and the societal beliefs.

A small group still manage to push through the dam with the brains still ticking and try not to exactly swim against but certainly away from the current. They try to define life on their own terms against stiff resistance of the old guard; some, termed as rebel, succeed while most perish in the big fight, but I am sure they do leave the world, satisfied that they tried.  

Yes, the river water produces electricity when blocked and channelized by the dam and so will the human mind and humanity prosper if the energy of the youth is guided into the right direction. Guide the youth and let him choose his own path; do not pollute the mind with hatred, outdated beliefs, and distorted facts. ‘It is these handful who swim away from the mainstream who generate the current and bring in the positive change in the society/ humanity’.

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Be ready to pay the price to achieve a dream……

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We all set goals in life , what we want to achieve, where we want to see ourselves in a given time frame but then why most of us fail to achieve what we started with the aim of achieving.

One of the reason for the failures, I found, was that in most cases actually the goals set are not our own, we don’t actually own them. A child, from early years, is being generally directed by the parents, teachers / elders towards a set goal and the child mentally starts accepting that’s what he wants to achieve or that’s what he wants to be.
His own dream remains buried deep down in his thoughts not allowed to flourish for various reasons.

As the child grows and gets into the professional field he gets exposed to the world and realises that’s not what he was born to do, his heart and mind is somewhere else. But not many have the heart to take that decision or the risk to change over and continues trying to excel in something he / she never actually loved. They try to adjust to the environment they are not comfortable with, and the goal post changes.

Not many parents / teachers encourage the child to take decisions, whereas the main aim of education , formal / informal , should be to empower the child with decision making abilities .By the time he understands decision making , he thinks its too late to take the risk of change and generally compromises. You compromise and the dream will be dead.

It’s not an easy task to realise the purpose of one’s life, what one wants to be. Some may get the enlightenment very early in life while most may take years and there is nothing wrong in it. The day you realise it , start working for it . Have the heart to follow your dream . The inability to follow the heart, the dream , is solely the failure of the individual and no one else can be blamed for it.

The issue of financial safety and security is drilled deep in our brains as we grow up. We are generally risk averse .We are not ready to pay the price attached to realising the dream. The price may be in the form of money , time or extra effort.

A dream like having a ‘Startup” may include the price of losing the security of present job, if you already have one. The risk of failure and losing all money will always be attached to it. Your family may also have to struggle along with you . Are they ready for it or are you ready to make them go through it? The dream may be a non-starter for want of finances or inability to take risks.

A dream of being a good mountaineer, having a good body and the like will require sacrifices of having a strict time and diet regimens . Getting up early and putting in extra hours over and above as required for your daily routine commitments. Specialised training over a long period under expert supervision. Only a truly dedicated person will succeed where the majority are bound to fail or just give up.

Simple dreams of being a singer, musician a dancer will require hard training over a sustained period of time. Many may just back out for reasons of time.

For a dream to be realised the basic requirement is a strong mind and heart. You have to make your decision after a deliberate thought and analysis. Be ready to face the risk not caring about what others may think. Be ready to put in that extra effort or burn the midnight oil as you train hard. Stay focused , not wavering in the face of odds. Chart your own path when no one seems to be giving you company. You will fall not once but many times, have the ability to get up and move on.

A dream should never be solely linked to making money . A dream is more related to being happy, getting satisfaction, than just make money.

“Be ready to pay the price ….To realise a dream”

“Be ready to pay the price ….To realise a dream”

Marriage and the shoe string budget…..

We had a short sweet courtship of three months before we decided to tie the knot. (My Dream Girl – Part 2: Ek ladki bheegi bhaagi si mili ek ajnabee se……)Three months was a good enough period to know and understand each other. The 90 best days of my life, enjoying the newfound company, flying high on cloud 9, love does take you on a different high. We had our fair share of hurdles, though nothing alarming, till we finally reached the stage of ‘saat pheras’ but fortunately both the families never raised any major issues.

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Follow your dream….

I had in an earlier article” Stay positive….You are born to excel not to ‘just fit in’….had expressed my views about the stress the students go through while facing interviews in the campus. The placement procedures have more or less got over and some of the students (including my boy) have been selected by well-known companies for a job they were desirous of joining. 

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