Love for an activity is the biggest source of inspiration for excelling….Follow your heart….

 

 

Stress is an intrinsic part of our lives . A child is under pressure to perform in exams ,passion on stage and at times in sports competitions. Once the school exams are over there is tension of clearing the competitive exams / getting enrolled in a renowned college and thereafter the search for a good job starts.  

All children , irrespective of the background they come from, have dreams . However unfortunately most of them give up on their dreams as they go through the paces of life or as some would like to say , they come face to face with realities of life. This is actually far from truth. The reality is that the parents / elders start guiding the child towards a profession since early years of life. Majority of the parents’ desire that their children get a secure and safe job, they are not open to risks. Fear of failure gets ingrained deep in the young minds and he / she finds it very difficult to shake it off and the dream remains a dream. 

The young men / women, in most cases, grab the first job on offer. The option of waiting and trying for something better or following the passion is not exercised under pressure. The pressure may be of elders, peers or the responsibilities. The child gives up on his / her passion and forces himself to do something he is not comfortable doing. If you look around, you will find that majority of the professionals are not satisfied with their job profiles and if given an option would love to do something else but can’t do it because of varied pressures, specially perceived family responsibilities.

 Parents and children have to equally share the blame for the situation the child normally gets into because of hurry to get a job and gives up his passion. A child is so busy with books and studies till he graduates that he may not be in a position, at the tender age of 21 / 22 years, to decide what he/ she actually wants to do . The problem is more accentuated in society like ours where the child is hardly given the liberty to make his own decisions, which are more or less imposed by the elders. The young adult requires time to realise his purpose and the right passion. He has to go through a period of trials to realise true love / passion. The period may range from four to five years to more of experimenting with different jobs / business. At the young age of 22 to 25 the ability to take risks is at peak. You have the right energy to work overtime, put in that extra bit. Most don’t have responsibilities of family. Even if the responsibilities are there, then have a job to meet that need and put in the extra effort to follow your passion. Invest your time and effort well. 

The young men / women should understand that earlier they take control of their lives the better it will be for them. Take suggestions / listen to advises but make your own decision. The passion or love for a job/ activity itself is the biggest source of inspiration to excel. The love will help persevere / persist against odds”. So it’s better to attempt something you love then to try and fit into something that doesn’t suit you, you don’t have the aptitude for.

 

“Life is not about survival…..it’s about living and living well….

Life is not about being rich ….it’s about being happy ….being satisfied…”

“Live your passion”

 

 

 

Be the driver of your Life…..

self-confidence

 

“The difference between who you are and what you are going to be is what you do today” 

Life is a beautiful journey , the route full of scenic locales , it’s up to us to live and enjoy or be so busy in our routine and miss out on the beauty. The choice lies with us to be the driver , in control of the steering of the vehicle or be a passenger just going where ever the vehicle takes us. There in lies the difference between the successful and not so successful. 

The majority takes the safer option of being the passenger trusting the skill of the driver to take them through. Trusting someone else with their future. 

Most get nervous with the mere thought of being in charge. We have all experienced nervousness at some point in our life . There can be ‘N’ number of reasons when one felt the heart racing or the palm sweating ; before an exam , attending an interview , before a presentation or even when we are getting late for an appointment or a flight. 

It is this nervousness or lack of confidence which makes or mars the future. Why should one be nervous? If you have prepared well , done good research work , rehearsed well ,  there should not be any reason for nervousness. Invest well in skill development, gaining knowledge and your health . These are the basic ingredients for building self-confidence. At times it is the hangover from the past or fear of failure ( Worrying about what others will say)  which gets on the nerves. If you have done step by step preparation you should not fear the outcome. Even if you do not achieve the desired result, the life does not come to an end. There is another day , more opportunities to excel . Do not give up at any failure , just analyse the reason and move on . May be you did not have the requisite experience for that job, get it. Or may be that job did not deserve you , there is something better waiting. 

Have faith in your abilities , trust your instincts . This will only come if you are honest in your preparation. Do not start looking for help at the smallest of obstacle, find your own solution. Get your own experience, it will build your confidence and come in handy in overcoming bigger hurdles later in life. Take charge of the steering and be the driver of your life. It’s your destination, you will understand the way better and utilise your abilities to your advantages. 

“If you leave the steering of your life in someone else’s hand you will only be sure that the vehicle will start, but how the journey will be and where it will hand will not be in your hand. Take charge of the steering…..live your life your way…..Be sure”. 

Do not let nervousness come in the way of your success. Be like a child, instead of being nervous , be excited. Only you can change the narrative of your life. 

“Invest in building your confidence…..it will take you places….certainly to your desired destination”

Invest in yourself…….

 

 

investment

“Invest in yourself…there are so many things in life we cannot control,so make sure you take care of what you have been freely given….your body ,your health and each other……invest wisely”

Every individual, be it an entrepreneur, businessmen or a salaried employee is busy investing effort, time and money in their profession with the singular aim of earning the desired money which in turn, they think, will facilitate them in living the life they dream. Apparently there is nothing wrong in this aim and approach but are they succeeding in it in the real sense. Yes , they maybe able to earn more money but at what cost ? They have less time for family / friends , increased stress levels, new lifestyle diseases and negligible time for self. This in a way is bound to adversely affect their personal and professional growth.

The ans, to offset this vicious cycle, lies in a planned, systematic  investment in personal growth .Learn to invest your time in a balanced manner ensuring time for work , skill development , health , play , breaks , family and friends.

First and foremost is the health which is the most affected because of the lifestyle the young generation is leading, with the aim of achieving more in small time. There is no set routine, the food habits are not good and off course there is no time for a good workout .  Health , if not taken care of, will pose the biggest hurdle on the road to your desired goals. Try and follow a routine wherein there is adequate time for work, family, food and leisure. Do not neglect food and do not over stress yourself. Periodic health check up is a must even if you think you are still young and healthy .

Do not forget taking a break at regular intervals to freshen up your mind and body.  A good break may range from just a two minutes stretch on the chair , tea break or walk in the garden, a great weekend or an outing once a year . Healthy mind and body are two main things which will help definitely help in achieving the desired goals.

Another field which require constant investment is knowledge . If sincere efforts are not made to keep abreast with not just the technological changes, the new work techniques but also the happenings in the environment you are bound to be left behind in the profession. Constantly upgrade your skills and acquire new. Develop habit of reading; time is never an issue, it is the will to read which you have to muster. Knowledge will not just help in tackling the challenges or in efficient guiding of the team but also prepare one to question the set patterns and find better ways of doing things. Knowledge is always respected and so will you be.

Invest in a hobby, if you can. It will help you to counter stress, whatever may be the cause. It will help in improving creativity and thought process. Drawing, painting, singing, cooking …….anything you like just go for it .The returns will be amazing and the only regret you will have is why you started so late.

Good relationship is another area, investment in which will give tremendous returns. Good relationship both at home and office are a must. Better the relations and bigger the circle of people you call us will lead to excellent output. The emotional support you get will see you through any stress situation. Social graces matter in the overall human growth.

Lastly , do not forget to invest in your personal grooming ,the ps & qs ,the way you dress, look , walk and talk .Always look your best, disheveled looks do not impress much. 

“Smart looks , neat hairstyle along with a ticking brain under it and some self discipline is a deadly combination which will rarely miss a target . Even if it misses , it will leave a mark”.