The day the child is born also results in the birth of a new set of parents; along with the birth of the child, a mother and a father too are ‘born’. The parents also grow, as the child grows, learning from their own experiences and from the combined wisdom of all elders and peers who keep guiding them from time to time. ‘Growth’ of the parents, or otherwise, affects the growth of the child most. There are parents who transform from being just a mother and father to being friends as the child grows whereas there is a vast majority which refuses to grow and as a result adversely affect the growth of the child; these are parents who never reach the stage of being a friend and continue to be just elders/ seniors. In my view parents can basically be classified into three types.
My 17-year-old daughter is in the final year of school. This, as per most of us, is supposedly the most crucial year of education and on the result of this exam will depend the future of the child. This is the stage, when most parents, elders, teachers will be breathing down the child’s neck reminding him/ her the importance of doing well (getting more than 90 % marks). Forcing the child to give up their hobbies or love of games in favour of books. Child is expected to spend as much time with books as possible.
As I opened the City supplement of the Newspaper the headline caught my eye “Suicide by a 14 year old girl”; another innocent life lost. Loss of life for any reason always pains. Suicide, specially by the youth/ students, is increasing every year. As per available statistics one students commits suicide in India every one hour; this is alarming. This trend of the youth ending life through suicides needs to be arrested. Efforts are required at all levels, specially in the schools and homes. It’s the proactive actions by the triad of parents, children and the teacher which will go a long way in reducing the suicides.
“You were born an original, not to live or die as someone else’s copy”. This is one quote which had a great influence on me during my initial years. As a youth one heard variety of quotes “You are born unique” “Just be you” “Always remember that you ate absolutely unique, just like everyone else” and what not. You are expected to create your own space under the Sun with your uniqueness being your identity.
It’s the negative, a wrong, which generally immediately catches the attention and stays in the mind for long. All of us are so good at finding faults with people and things. At times one fault upsets us so much that it completely overshadows the 99 good things on display.
My 17 years old daughter is a student of class 12 (Science student). In Indian subcontinent, the future of child is based on he/ she performs in class 12th (at least a majority of us would believe it to be true). As a parent, I want to empower my child with the power of decision making, have freedom of expression and imagination and most of all I want her to live life not to just survive. She is a go-getter, full of life with creativity and innovation being her passion. As she copes with her class 12 studies we are struggling to strike a right balance between ‘Her life” and her ‘School life’. Continue reading “Is our education system encouraging or killing creativity/ innovation????”
India, as a nation is obsessed with sons. Every family craves for a son, there will be very few homes where daughters are treated at par. Even the parents, who today publicly declare themselves proud to have only daughters would have sometime visited all possible doctors, temples and God-men in the search of fulfilling their dream of having a son.
Where you reach, what you achieve in life is generally dependent on the education you gain during the journey (of life). It may not be just the formal education in the classrooms, but the informal education/ values one gains through elders or by just observing nature which will matter in fulfilling life’s purpose. The initial education (generally informal) gained during the first five or six years of life is what provides the foundation for the future. This is where the parents/ elders and the observation power of the child play the most important part.Continue reading “Blessed to have you as my first teacher….. “