The Police force…In urgent need of reforms

One of the major factors which determines the nation’s standard is the quality of policing, the law and order situation and the government in general and the Police, in particular, has a lot of introspection to do in this aspect.

Every state police force has an inglorious history of committing public atrocities, habitual miss handling of cases, exhibition of in-sensitiveness and getting away with it. A policeman whose sheer presence is supposed to infuse confidence in the mind of an ordinary citizen in fact does exactly the opposite, Hardly any citizen, especially women, is likely to have a good experience to share after visiting a police station.

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Incredible India…The beautiful hills…

After a break of four months today got an opportunity to drive in the hills. Words cannot explain what a feeling it was to be back in the pines, the lovely breeze and mesmerizing hills.

The beautiful valley..
The village…
The Pines..
The Sun ..
The clouds..

I am back fresh and rejuvenated after a day out…

Journey from staying positive to making ends meet…

Stay positive, think positive, be positive is the guru mantra every motivational speaker sold no end till end 2019. Come 2020, everything changed, all predictions went haywire, all analysis of ‘Where you see yourself in 2020 and beyond’ went totally wrong, Ms Corona changed mindsets in no time.

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‘Me time’ or the ‘Mobile time’….debate goes on….

No other technical gadget has invaded the human life like the smart phones. From communication to entertainment, education, online shopping, work from home, it has become an essential part of our daily lives more so in this difficult time of the COVID pandemic. One feels incomplete with a smart phone in hand.

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Mobile phones from being a means of communication also has become a major source of distraction, addiction, depression. The ‘mobile time’ has gradually replaced the ‘me time’ and taken over major part of the ‘family time’. From the conference tables in the offices to the dining tables at home one common factor is the smart phone occupying a pride of place. The way the phone is displayed on the table indicates who and what is more important. A ping of a message received gets more attention than the real conversation going on. A ring on the phone can make the owner forget his favourite food. Wi-fi connectivity matters more than the mental compatibility.

There was a time when I loved to spend time in my own company, talking to myself, living in my own imaginary world. Now the mobile phone has invaded that space and I spent maximum time in company of my phone. Whenever I am free the hand automatically goes to the phone and the scrolling starts. Most of the time what starts as a ‘check the mail or message update’ ends up in spending a couple of hours on surfing the net without much reason. The smart phone which otherwise is connecting me to the world has taken me away from myself.

The smart phones have made life simpler, but it has also forced the mind away from generating own ideas to ‘cut copy pasting’ from the 100s of ideas available online; the creativity and originality has taken a backseat.

The smart phones are here to stay, rather will continue to get smarter with every passing year. It is on us, the humans, to prove that we are the smartest and keep the smart phones in its place; not let them take over our lives. It is high time we stopped displaying our smart phones on the conference/ dining tables, resist from taking a peek at the messages or chatting during meetings; formal or informal.

Do not just live to dream….Live your dream….

It is said that ‘Life is a journey from what you are to what you want to be’. Wish life were all that simple, which everyone could understand and steered it the way they wanted. Unfortunately, a vast majority falter at the first step; most are not aware of their own capabilities and what they want to achieve in life.

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To Succeed….Learn to face rejections…

The success in life beyond graduation is basically dependent on a child’s ability to face failures. Unfortunately, very few parents prepare the child to face rejections in life.

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The Indian parents are no different from parents the world over. There are some who always go out of the way to protect the child, for them their child can do no wrong ever. These parents always come to the rescue of child when he/ she fails in an exam or competition by shifting the blame to the system. The excuses of failure range from poor quality of teachers to bad seating arrangement or very high or very low temperatures in the exam hall or taking cover of superstition. They will never find any fault with the child. Such parents are always ready to fulfill any demand of the child without ever trying to understand whether what the child is demanding is actually required or not. Some of them think that money can buy anything and spend huge sums of money to get the child admitted in renowned colleges just to satisfy their own ego. They fail to understand that money can buy a degree but not knowledge or skill. Such children find it very difficult to achieve much on their own as depending on external support (parent’s) is in their nature. Majority of them either join the parental business or start a business with the support of parents. The day the support breaks down and desires get difficult to fulfill most of these youth lose their way. These young boys and girls are not used to facing rejections or failures and certainly have no idea what hard work is. When going gets difficult some find try to escape from the reality through the drug route and some even take the extreme step of committing suicide.

Then there is this second variety of parents which lies on the other extreme of the spectrum; for them their child can never do anything good in life, they are always ready to put the blame of failures on the child. Such children wait for the day they can get out from the shadow of the parents. Most of them never set a vision for themselves and latch on to the first job they can lay their hands on. It is not the quality of job but the perceived financial security the job gives which matters. All their life they remain trapped under the first job they got and never realise their own passion and never understand what true freedom and happiness is.  

Then there is this third variety of parents, a minority, who believe in overall development of the child and making him/ her self-reliant. They indulge in constructive criticism to make the child realise his/ her weaknesses and help them overcome them through their own efforts. Majority of such children possess the inner strength to face failures. They do not mind long working hours or job hopping till they get something which satisfies the mind. These boys and girls take risks to follow their passion and most of them end up as achievers as they are doing do what they love.

 It is incumbent on the parents to prepare the child to face failures in life. Parents may be stinking rich, but they should not aim to donate the money to the child, he should work hard to become worthy of inheritance if the rich legacy has to continue.

 

 

 

The beautiful nature ..

Being with nature is so fulfilling and destressing specially in these trying times when every mind has been over possessed by the fear virus….by the fear of death. The pandemic, other than setting new norms for the way of life, has forced another big change in our lives….it has by default brought in a positive change in our surroundings ; the pollution levels are down to the lowest, the air we breathe is purer, the stars shine brighter.

The Sangla Valley…one of the most beautiful valleys in the state of Himachal Pradesh in India…

One does not have to go for long drives to enjoy the change; a short walk early morning around the place of stay is also refreshing and magical. Enjoy as long as it lasts, let the heart and lungs feel the purity.

Missing the hugs and the smiles….

The pandemic has affected the life of a common man the most, the life of ‘Aam Aadmi” like me who derive happiness from small things in life; small things like the hugs and smiles matter the most to me. But now all the 24 X 7 News channels having successfully sold the fear story that every man who hugs, will get a dose of Ms Corona free, (chances improve manifolds if the hug is given to a stranger) has ensured that  no one is willing to even come closer than two metres leave alone giving a hug. Corona ably aided by the over indulgent TV channels has managed to do something in a matter of couple of months which even an overtly possessive spouse could not do in years; blown the hugs and the kisses (the friendly ones) out from the life without much ado.

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