I picked up the habit of reading Newspapers very young. Way back, during the school days, Newspaper was the first thing I rushed for immediately on reaching back home from school. Those days my favourite used to be the last page because it carried all the sports news and thereafter if I had time and inclination, the first page got a cursory glance just to see the headlines which normally did not make much sense to me. Continue reading “My day used to start with the News paper …. “
Have a dream, follow it with passion, setbacks will be there but never give up, succeed you will. This is ‘one template fit all’ formula most motivational speakers have for most startups / new entrants. If it was all just this easy then why does one see so many failures around. For every one success story there will be many failures to read about. Well, passion, hard work are all the necessary ingredients of a success story and most people apparently have them in good amount. Why do they still fail to achieve the desired goals?
Courage is the main virtue, most people lack. While they may have the courage to dream, most do not have enough courage to express, courage to go against the established norms, courage to take risks, courage to learn & unlearn, courage to face failures, overcome fears and the courage to get up again. Courage to own a failure, to accept mistakes, going all over again to find the right solution and moving ahead matters most in the run up to success. If you don’t have the courage to jump into the pool you will never learn swimming and just keep dreaming about it.
From courage flows ‘Self Confidence’, the most important ingredient required to break a new path. Confidence comes through education, learning from the books, contemporaries, competitors and from your own mistakes. Once you have learnt, acquired the right skills and the right company, you will move ahead with confidence ready to take risks and face any obstacle.
It’s the combination of courage and confidence which gives the power to make choices. To make a choice between the perceived right and wrong, to make the choice of taking or not taking risks. Most important of all, confidence helps you in making the choice to follow your dream when whole world appears to be against it.
“It’s the combination of Courage, Confidence and ability to make right choices which will lead you to success”
June is the month of results in India. Results of the 10th and 12th standard school Board exams and all major competitive exams are declared in this month. A student who has appeared in any of these exams can be easily identified, as the month of June approaches, with the signs of nervousness which are so evident in their body language. Even the students who had supposedly under done very well, are under stress till the results are declared. Why do exams instill such fear and stress in the mind of students?
Depending on whether the result has been good or bad a period of celebration or sorrow starts. Well emotions have to be expressed and small periods of depression is natural, however what is worrisome is the increasing number of suicides which take place when the result is not on the expected line. Has the life has become so cheap that a failure in one school exam can finish it?
Life is full of exams and opportunities. A single failure doesn’t close the doors to success in future life. History is replete with examples of people who failed in school exams not once, but many times or failed to complete formal education and still went on to become role models of success in life. The only reason being that they treated failure as it ought to be treated… it is not the end. Maybe they realised that life was beyond the books. Success and failure, both, should never be taken to heart or made to burden the mind for too long. This is where the education system, both formal and informal, fails. Both do not prepare the students to face failures. Not just the parents, and teachers but most of the so-called preachers generally fail in preparing the child for life. They only prepare the students for mere school exams.
Why should a failure in school exams or love life lead a young boy / girl to suicide? This a clear sign of weak grooming. Why do these young people fail to understand that their death only affects their parents and siblings who live with the loss all their life maybe with a feeling of guilt. By taking their life they have deprived themselves of the opportunities which might have come their way to excel and more importantly they have deprived their parents / dear ones the moments of joy and happiness which they could have given them in the journey of life. Suicides are no solution, they just cause a life long pain for people left behind. Failure in exam can be easily made up by putting in that extra effort or by putting your heart into something you love.
“Life is precious …Love it …Live it….Life is certainly much beyond school exams…”
“Failures , more often than not, provide a strong base for a bright future….provided you learn from them …”
The future of a child will always be dictated by how strong his foundation has been. The foundation is laid by the education the child gets in the first few years of his life through the parents , school and the environment around. I am a firm believer that the primary aim of education , formal or informal , is to empower the child to question the prevalent and to make his own decisions. Is our education system fulfilling this requirement?? For me the answer is a Big No. The effects can be seen all around us. Most organisations and the nation as such suffers cause of lack of decision making abilities.
The child starts learning, through observation and hearing, very early in life. The child observes and registers everything he / she sees around. It is on the parents and elders to create an environment conducive to good learning. What do we end up teaching the child??? I am basically referring to the environment prevalent in Indian subcontinent or may be in some other Asian countries. though I think it won’t be much different in other parts of the world as well. Basic values , the child gains from the parents, he will behave the way they do. Most parents do not encourage the child to question. It is simple, you have to do it because we are saying so. Very few will take the pains of hearing the child and giving a logical explanation for any action. Most of us shy away from explaining our stands because we ourselves are not very sure about it. The child is hardly ever given the right to make his own decisions. Even the smallest of decisions, at times , are enforced. The basic job of the parents should be to help the child reach a decision by giving him options and teaching him the art of rational thinking. However, hardly any parent / elder wants to forego their self-proclaimed right of making decisions on behalf of the children. Fear and cautions are usually being ingrained deep in the child’s mind by the elders . All attempts are made to make the child risk averse.
Life doesn’t get any better for the child in school. The students is continuously / relentlessly fed rather overfed with data / information and formulas. Hardly any stress is laid on practicalities of life , learning from personal examples. Emphasis is more on scoring marks than on values / overall growth ( mental & physical) . Decisions are imposed , questioning generally not accepted. Teachers have no time , they are struggling to complete the official syllabus , how can they devote time on teaching the true meaning of life to the young minds.
Restrictions on the child’s ability to question curbs his ability to make decisions. Imagination is limited. “The mind which cannot fly free cannot create new” .
All this has a long-term effect on just not the overall growth of the child but on the national growth itself. Just look around and see how many thinkers , researchers or decision makers you find around you. Yes some do rise to the position of decision making but how many can actually take risks ( calculated or otherwise ) or make the right decisions. Majority rise to become just good ‘SERVANTS’ ; How good is again a question mark .
“Empower the child to question the status quo….
Empower him/ her to take risks….
Let the mind be free….
The child and the society both will grow”