To Succeed….Learn to face rejections…

The success in life beyond graduation is basically dependent on a child’s ability to face failures. Unfortunately, very few parents prepare the child to face rejections in life.

The Indian parents are no different from parents the world over. There are some who always go out of the way to protect the child, for them their child can do no wrong ever. These parents always come to the rescue of child when he/ she fails in an exam or competition by shifting the blame to the system. The excuses of failure range from poor quality of teachers to bad seating arrangement or very high or very low temperatures in the exam hall or taking cover of superstition. They will never find any fault with the child. Such parents are always ready to fulfill any demand of the child without ever trying to understand whether what the child is demanding is actually required or not. Some of them think that money can buy anything and spend huge sums of money to get the child admitted in renowned colleges just to satisfy their own ego. They fail to understand that money can buy a degree but not knowledge or skill. Such children find it very difficult to achieve much on their own as depending on external support (parent’s) is in their nature. Majority of them either join the parental business or start a business with the support of parents. The day the support breaks down and desires get difficult to fulfill most of these youth lose their way. These young boys and girls are not used to facing rejections or failures and certainly have no idea what hard work is. When going gets difficult some find try to escape from the reality through the drug route and some even take the extreme step of committing suicide.

Then there is this second variety of parents which lies on the other extreme of the spectrum; for them their child can never do anything good in life, they are always ready to put the blame of failures on the child. Such children wait for the day they can get out from the shadow of the parents. Most of them never set a vision for themselves and latch on to the first job they can lay their hands on. It is not the quality of job but the perceived financial security the job gives which matters. All their life they remain trapped under the first job they got and never realise their own passion and never understand what true freedom and happiness is.  

Then there is this third variety of parents, a minority, who believe in overall development of the child and making him/ her self-reliant. They indulge in constructive criticism to make the child realise his/ her weaknesses and help them overcome them through their own efforts. Majority of such children possess the inner strength to face failures. They do not mind long working hours or job hopping till they get something which satisfies the mind. These boys and girls take risks to follow their passion and most of them end up as achievers as they are doing do what they love.

 It is incumbent on the parents to prepare the child to face failures in life. Parents may be stinking rich, but they should not aim to donate the money to the child, he should work hard to become worthy of inheritance if the rich legacy has to continue.