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We all set goals in life , what we want to achieve, where we want to see ourselves in a given time frame but then why most of us fail to achieve what we started with the aim of achieving.
One of the reason for the failures, I found, was that in most cases actually the goals set are not our own, we don’t actually own them. A child, from early years, is being generally directed by the parents, teachers / elders towards a set goal and the child mentally starts accepting that’s what he wants to achieve or that’s what he wants to be.
His own dream remains buried deep down in his thoughts not allowed to flourish for various reasons.
As the child grows and gets into the professional field he gets exposed to the world and realises that’s not what he was born to do, his heart and mind is somewhere else. But not many have the heart to take that decision or the risk to change over and continues trying to excel in something he / she never actually loved. They try to adjust to the environment they are not comfortable with, and the goal post changes.
Not many parents / teachers encourage the child to take decisions, whereas the main aim of education , formal / informal , should be to empower the child with decision making abilities .By the time he understands decision making , he thinks its too late to take the risk of change and generally compromises. You compromise and the dream will be dead.
It’s not an easy task to realise the purpose of one’s life, what one wants to be. Some may get the enlightenment very early in life while most may take years and there is nothing wrong in it. The day you realise it , start working for it . Have the heart to follow your dream . The inability to follow the heart, the dream , is solely the failure of the individual and no one else can be blamed for it.
The issue of financial safety and security is drilled deep in our brains as we grow up. We are generally risk averse .We are not ready to pay the price attached to realising the dream. The price may be in the form of money , time or extra effort.
A dream like having a ‘Startup” may include the price of losing the security of present job, if you already have one. The risk of failure and losing all money will always be attached to it. Your family may also have to struggle along with you . Are they ready for it or are you ready to make them go through it? The dream may be a non-starter for want of finances or inability to take risks.
A dream of being a good mountaineer, having a good body and the like will require sacrifices of having a strict time and diet regimens . Getting up early and putting in extra hours over and above as required for your daily routine commitments. Specialised training over a long period under expert supervision. Only a truly dedicated person will succeed where the majority are bound to fail or just give up.
Simple dreams of being a singer, musician a dancer will require hard training over a sustained period of time. Many may just back out for reasons of time.
For a dream to be realised the basic requirement is a strong mind and heart. You have to make your decision after a deliberate thought and analysis. Be ready to face the risk not caring about what others may think. Be ready to put in that extra effort or burn the midnight oil as you train hard. Stay focused , not wavering in the face of odds. Chart your own path when no one seems to be giving you company. You will fall not once but many times, have the ability to get up and move on.
A dream should never be solely linked to making money . A dream is more related to being happy, getting satisfaction, than just make money.
“Be ready to pay the price ….To realise a dream”
Nice article sir..very motivating. I would only like to add that while it’s common to find people in Developed Countries following this path but slowly the Millennia Generation is too waking up to the concept of following one’s own dream cum passion. Probably it’s more to do with sense of social or financial security. In any case it requires time, passion and dedication as brought out very aptly by you sir. Regards
Yes Lalit…
As a nation state we are way behind…lakhs of citizens ( migrants) marching on rss to reach home has amply shown where we stand as a nation in caring and educating .
Very well written sir. You have very aptly brought out the sacrifices one is required to make to achieve the set aim or goal. First and foremost is to have a goal, then to also see that it is worth the effort. Most of the people go about their lives without any goal, carrying on with whatever comes their way. Nothing wrong in that also if it gives one happiness. So bottomline is to feel happy and contended…
Thank you Raj..very aptly covered..
Good to see u back…
Sir,
living without dreams in ur eyes r just like u r living bcz u r breathing….i m thankful to God some of my dreams out if many dreams have been fulfilled….and always preying almighty for others also to realise their dreams…..very nice blog Sir
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Thank you Raj Kumar..
God bless you 🙏
Decades from birth and I still don’t k.ow what I really want to do when I grow up 🙂
Thank you Renee..
May be you are already what you wanted to..
God bless you 🙏
Very insightful article, Krish. At a time like this with the pandemic and global recession, people need to take a hard look at the dreams they have sacrificed for the sake of a paycheck. I feel that this is a time for people to see through the illusion of job security and start following their inner wisdom once again. Those who stay true to their destined purpose will find it easier as the world moves forward in this new paradigm. Great article!
Thank you so much…for reading and leaving your views….you are right pandemic is unfolding many lessons ..hope people learn and retain some..