Posted by It’s the negative, a wrong, which generally immediately catches the attention and stays in the mind for long. All of us are so good at finding faults with people and things. At times one fault upsets us so much that it completely overshadows the 99 good things on display.
The Black Spot….
Once during a talk to the students, I displayed a slide which had just one black spot in the centre and asked the students what they saw on the screen and all of them, without an exception, replied that they saw a black spot. A single spot which occupied just about 10 percent of the space on the slide had overshadowed the brightness which covered the 99 percent of the slide. This is actually what happens in real life too most of the time, we see one flaw in someone or something and more or less form a negative opinion overlooking the other many good things/ qualities that may be present in that person or the thing.
Every person is good for something…
Long-time back when I had just joined my profession, my boss had given me this ‘Guru Mantra’(Teaching); In a professional team every person is not same, each one has got at least one good quality which the leader has to identify and use the person accordingly. This way everyone will give their best and organisation will grow. Do not pit them against each other, instead, use their strengths collectively to improve the working efficiency.
Understand your child….
Same is true for the parents and the teachers, they got to identify the goodness in the child and guide him/ her accordingly for overall betterment. You can take a horse to the water but cannot force it to drink; he will drink only if he is thirsty. Identify the ‘hunger’ in the child and help him/ her satiate it. Do not force the child to do what he is not good at. He may do it under pressure but may just partially succeed, and have regrets all his life. Never ever do the mistake of comparing the child with others, each one of them is born unique. It is this uniqueness which should become his/ her brand value.
Learn from nature….
Learn to appreciate the nature, enjoy the beauty around. There is abundance of it. Take time out form your busy schedule, just go for a walk or sit under a tree and inhale some fresh air, enjoy the beauty of natural colors, you will feel the positive difference it makes.
Well written
Each point is very much meaningful & Soo true
one fault upsets us so much that it completely overshadows the 99 good things on display.
Liked this very much , especially –
“There are so many varieties of plants and animals, each different and unique, never in competition, none trying to overshadow the other, each one just doing their assigned task and adding to the overall beauty of the environment. ” What a comparison !!!
Awesome post
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Thank you Akshaya…
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Very peaceful way of writing. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you Devyani…
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U know u just made me smile. After a long and painful day this post really cheered me up. You are truly motivational. Thank you. 😊
Thank you so much….you have made my day…
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I always appreciate everything around me. I truly take note in all the good in my life because there is so much good and I never take anything for granted.
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I agree with this. Especially about finding what the child is good at and not force them to do something they aren’t as great at. I’ve seen the bad mentality a child has when pushed into things they don’t like.
You are right
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Right .
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I really appreciate this point of view. I’ve never really thought about it like that but it’s so true. Most of us just see the black spot and not the wonderful open space.
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Very positive post and full of great advise! This is something that most of us need to work on!
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I totally agree with what you have written. Every person is an individual and if you want to bring out the best in them you have to recognize their own strengths and weaknesses and help them to flourish using this knowledge.
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Beautiful information. Thank you for sharing.
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It’s coincidental that you write this. I was just discussing this with a friend of mine over dinner yesterday. How kids can be the source of learning. And how what you say, do in front of them shapes them into the kind of people they eventually become. Good parenting is very important. I find it hilarious that it has become more of a chore than coming naturally to people. People literally take course on being good parents. I mean don’t see it as a burden or a task..just love your kid unconditionally. He’ll teach you the rest.
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Thanks for this – you have shared some very good points – especially the one on children – I believe that we need to nurture each child according to his or her ability. Similarly your point about the black dot is so true 🙂
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So true! Great perspective to have.
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Really loved the messages behind this post, so true!
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Good article.informative
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Very thoughtful and sooo true! So many people focus on the darkness that they focus there is light.
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Thank you Tiffany..
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I will revert back to you..
As usual an beautiful piece of advice and wisdom flows from the the article. Beauty lies on the eyes of beholder hence it’s our innner self which makes us see the things any situation or a person in positive or negative manner. We need to clean up our inner self and then appreciation of everything will become easy I guess.
That’s right Lalit.
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I did see the black spot and missed the brightness surrounding! Thank you for writing this, too often I find myself concentrating on the negative and miss the positive but this was a timely reminder x
Great blog x
Thank you Christie..
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