I firmly believe that my happiness is my responsibility, I cannot let it depend on someone else. If I do that I may never be happy, but if my reigns are in my hands then I can change directions whenever I want, take a break when I feel the need and just be happy. Some may feel that it is easier said than done but take it from me, not very difficult to achieve.
One thing which affects the happiness most in all phases of life is the zero-error syndrome. Mistakes are not just accepted by parents, teachers or bosses even when everyone is fully aware of the fact that mistakes will happen. No one can be always perfect. What is in our hands is to accept the mistake, understand the treason and make suitable corrections and ensure it is not repeated again. Most of the time actually it is not a mistake but a difference of opinion / perception specially in the offices. A senior wants a thing to be done in a particular way when there are multiple ways of doing it. The junior may not be actually wrong, he might have only done the task in a different way hence he is made to feel that he is wrong. This is the problem with most bosses and teachers / parents. Instead of complimenting the junior / child for putting in the requisite effort and accomplishing a task, they usually just point out the perceived mistakes and want the task to be done their way.
Unfortunately, this junior, when he becomes a senior, more often than not repeats the mistakes of his juniors, sitting at judgement and wanting his juniors to do the tasks his way. The seniors / teachers / parents are not willing to accept the mistakes and the juniors / students are being tutored. Innovation and creativity is hardly encouraged. Freedom of choice is being curbed. Every mother / teacher wants the child to score full marks always. It’s just not possible. Tutoring can help a child score 499 out of possible 500 marks in school but will certainly not help him in the exam of life. Creativity, risks are required to succeed in life. Teachers / parents should only assist the child in finding the solution and not tutor him.
One may be the best student in school and topped all exams but that doesn’t guarantee success in everything he attempts later in life. Partial success / failures are part of life and should be taken that way. Failures throw up new lessons and most of the time lead to creation of altogether a new product, provided you are willing to accept the failures and more than that are not willing to give up.
It is the fear of failure and the zero-error syndrome which is the main reason for creating unwanted stress in the schools and work places. Burdening the young minds for no reason. Accept mistakes, do not humiliate, just guide. Let the minds be free to think new, to create new.
“Anyone who cannot accept & handle mistakes will seldom succeed in life”